Friday, May 27, 2016

Subsidizing My Spouse

Dear Readers, I don't know where the time goes.... actually, I do: whenever the children are not needing something, I just want to sit and read a book.  (All one hour of daylight when this is true. Some of the time, instead, I cook dinner or clean or put in another load of laundry.)

Right now is a point in my life where my work subsidizes my spouse's career.

This is what his life looks like outside of work:
Pack child lunches*; make coffee in morning; take children to school; play with children after work; wash dishes; take out trash; do investments.  Mow lawn.  Sweep and clean on weekends.

This is what my life looks like outside of (three hours a week, which are now over, of) work:
Get children from school; arrange all childcare; do all grocery shopping; cook all dinners and lunches; feed baby eight times a day; book tradespeople; pay bills; make and execute all medical and dental appointments for everyone but spouse.  Wash laundry; remove spiders from house; go to library with children; obtain clothing for all members of family.  Car maintenance.  All paperwork having to do with everything but work.  Bills. Arrange sports and extracurriculars.

(Shortly it will be Summer, No More School, and spouse will get to skip lunches and take-children-to-school, and I'll have them all the time!  Except for camp.  All hail camp.)

Do you see anything enjoyable on that list?  I do not.  I dislike all of it.  More precisely, I dislike being obligated to do all these things.  And yet, it is irrational to push it off onto my spouse.  I give it good odds that we will stay married for a long time (barring death, you know) and so it makes sense to put all one's tenure eggs in one basket.  In the meantime, I kind of hate it all.

* The big one packs his own lunch but requires some supervision.

Next time I have time: pondering the possibilities of work options. Spoiler: few.

Friday, May 20, 2016

On Working

Dear Readers, my course is over for the year and I am bored.

You know what?  I don't really value stay-at-home-parenting.  It's necessary that someone should do all the Stuff but damn, I'd rather be doing something else.  As a corollary, I have no plans to ever home-school because I value my professional labor over my child-wrangling/educating labor.*  Also, the thought gives me hives. I pretty much loathe being stuck at home with screaming children and/or in Nap Jail, trying to make food I can't eat for children who are going to whine about it.**

I'm applying for jobs^ and talking to the new chair^^ and trying to work stuff out but people, this is a HARD time.

Problem: Boredom
Solutions: More stuff to do
Impediment: None of it is stuff I want to do (cleaning, laundry, fucking dinner fucking again)
Other Solutions: More job
Impediment: Two cows per person; county population 24,000

Problem: Many small children
Solution: Time, drinking
Impediment: Have had to give up drinking for boring medical reasons
Other Solutions: More chocolate

Problem: Lack of employment
Solution: Apply for more jobs
Impediment: Lack of jobs
Other Solutions: More chocolate; more gym

Problem: Loneliness
Solution: Talk to people more
Impediment: I don't like people
Other Solutions: Find more logical/rational people.  Where ARE they?

* Notice how I don't say I would never.  I recognize that there are many life circumstances that may make home-schooling rewarding, necessary, or Something That Is Happening.  Great for you!  Not great for me. Also not, at the moment, necessary for me.

** Overlapping set of things I can eat that the children will reliably eat: hummus, tortilla chips, scrambled eggs.  Citrus fruit and pineapple.  ... that's pretty much it.  We discourage the whining with great vigor, and yet.  

^ All one of them that pay above $10/hour

^^ SOMEtime, who knows when, for Boring Academic Politics Reasons.

Monday, May 16, 2016


I made Dr. S a proper doctoral hood. (It looks properly ridiculous but that's a feature, not a bug.)

.... I really need more of a job. Housewifing: so boring and repetitive and unrewarding (for me, at this point; anyone else is welcome to feel differently!).

Thursday, May 05, 2016


I'm not leaving the house for the rest of May.  What IS this???

Monday, May 02, 2016

Fever, Vomiting, Fever, Coughing, Fever....

...hand, foot, and mouth.

Do you know what's tomorrow?  The last class.  No really, this time IS the last one.

If I'm still doing this job next semester (odds look decent) I need a longer list of college-aged emergency babysitters.*

* If you know where I teach, you know why My Former Students are right out.  But Dr. S can usually round up some nice sorority girls for me. 

Thursday, April 28, 2016

More Snarky Book Reviews

Daughter of the Blood (Bishop): starts off with a bang!  Ritual rape and first-page violence.  A record for how few pages I read (three) before giving up. NOPE.

Truthwitch: Heroine couldn't decide if she was intelligent or impulsive.  Also mandatory falling in love with hero figure. Bored, DNF.

Mairelon the Magician/ The Magician's Ward (Wrede): A little dude-heavy on the first one, but the second is fantastic and has a saucy mother.  I'd forgotten how much I liked them! (Reread.)  How to do 'set in Victorian England' and still have ladies do stuff.  A favorite line: "Lady Wendall has always had a reputation for... originality, even before the curried snails in aspic."

Disenchanted & co: Great premise, mediocre execution.  Heroine is inconsistent until the last few chapters.  Also there is random porn inserted (hah) here and there and a literal deus ex machina, which I always find irritating.

Grand Sophy (Heyer): My favorite Heyer of all, probably because Sophy doesn't give a fuck for social conventions.  The 'crush you in my arms' ending could, as  always, go.

Library at Mount Char: Well written but too violent and disturbing for me.  First 40 pages feature violence, reanimation, violent abuse, maggots, and two messy, violent, graphic deaths.  DNF.

Secrets of Drearcliffe Grange School: Very strange and a bit self-consciously precious, but enjoyably strange.  Recommend.

Wireless (Stross): Tried to re-read while feverish.  Do not do this; you will have nightmares of tentacled horrors abducting you to  strange alien planets.  With termites.  (Great book otherwise but above-average disturbing.)

Frostfire (Viehl): Terribly boring.  DNF.

What have you been reading?

Monday, April 25, 2016

Bad Bad Timing

Tomorrow is the last day I'm supposed to teach.

Today Bug, my mother, Dr. S and I have all come down with plague, fever and vomiting.

Everything is terrible.